Dealing With Friends
Created By Sophie Brading On 3 June, 2009
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Added By Sophie Brading On June 3, 2009, 2:25 am
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“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you” Dale Carnegie
Few people would question the benefits of having a great circle of friends.
Throughout our teenage years and into our twenties, friendships are so very important to us. They distinguish who we are, decide what we do, where we go and what we buy. We really think it will be this way forever.
Then life steps up the pace. Our careers take shape; we get promoted, get married, get a mortgage and have children. Some friends move away. We find it difficult to manage our time and responsibilities, and gradually our friendships fade. This is not normally what we want.
The challenge here seems to be how we fit friends into an already overcrowded life. Friendship can be like a marriage, it must be worked at. People do change and priorities change when people change.
To keep a good circle of friends around us, we must look after our friendships. This ensures they grow with us through our ever-changing lives.
If you do feel your friendships could benefit from some TLC then read on, here are some tips on improving this area of your life… if you’re not already, you can and will be surrounded by wonderful people.
Firstly, and if there is only one piece of advice you take from this article please take this piece of advice, start by treating others how you want to be treated. I can’t stress how important this is. If you’ve heard of the Law of Attraction, you will know that what we project to the world comes right back at us. The way to work with this law is to decide what qualities are most important to you and then you need to start giving them out in abundance, because you simply cannot receive what you don’t give. If you don’t believe me, try this for one week and see the results for yourself. Try it with anything and you\\\\\\\'ll be amazed at its power.
For me Honesty and Trust are a great foundation for choosing friends. Be rich in these qualities and you will receive them back in abundance. Be caring and understanding. Don’t make arrangements or promises you won’t keep - be a trustworthy friend.
Ask yourself…what qualities are important to you?
Secondly, choose your friends very wisely. Be clever and focus your time and energy on friends who make you feel happy; choose to be around friends who make you smile and bring sunshine into your life. Choose friends who are worthy of your precious time and attention. This will make all the difference to your life as it’s very difficult to sustain every friendship you have ever made. No one has the time for that!! If you don’t intentionally choose which friendships you give your attention to you’ll have less time and love to give to those who are truly worthy of it.
Thirdly, make time for your friends. We may think of friends and want to call them, then something might crop up and we never do make that call. Time passes and that call is never made. This is the main reason friendships fizzle out. It begins to feel easier to walk away than make the effort of fixing the friendship from neglect.
Be honest with yourself, whatever you might tell yourself you really CAN make time. Only you decide where you put your attention each day, week, month and eventually the whole of your life. You need to be aware of where you are focusing your energy. Be conscious of how you use your time and choose to prioritize the people in your life.
The truth is all friendships do require working at. Make the time to send your friends an email or give them a quick phone call, write them a letter, send them a card or invite them round for coffee- show them that you care about them. Otherwise how will they know?
Then, enjoy your friends and have fun. Any long term friendship can go stale. So if you take the time to freshen up your friendship. Have some fun. You might not be 16 anymore, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get a little silly. If life isn’t enjoyable, then what’s the point? Concentrate on having fun and laughing with your friends and your friendships will stay a positive part of your life. You\\\\\\\'ll be a joy to be around and attract some happy people into your life!
Lastly, accept your friends the way they are.. some friends are great on the phone others are not. Some friends like to be out partying until dawn; some friends might prefer a night in sharing a nice meal or maybe even out to see a film. Some friends know the right thing to say, others don’t. It is a crucial part of managing your friendships; you must accept people the way they are. Fighting your friends’ natural personality is never going to work. We cannot control other people, and frankly, we shouldn’t want to.
Give your friends the room to be who they are and don't try to change them.
Description:
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you” Dale Carnegie
Few people would question the benefits of having a great circle of friends.
Throughout our teenage years and into our twenties, friendships are so very important to us. They distinguish who we are, decide what we do, where we go and what we buy. We really think it will be this way forever.
Then life steps up the pace. Our careers take shape; we get promoted, get married, get a mortgage and have children. Some friends move away. We find it difficult to manage our time and responsibilities, and gradually our friendships fade. This is not normally what we want.
The challenge here seems to be how we fit friends into an already overcrowded life. Friendship can be like a marriage, it must be worked at. People do change and priorities change when people change.
To keep a good circle of friends around us, we must look after our friendships. This ensures they grow with us through our ever-changing lives.
If you do feel your friendships could benefit from some TLC then read on, here are some tips on improving this area of your life… if you’re not already, you can and will be surrounded by wonderful people.
Firstly, and if there is only one piece of advice you take from this article please take this piece of advice, start by treating others how you want to be treated. I can’t stress how important this is. If you’ve heard of the Law of Attraction, you will know that what we project to the world comes right back at us. The way to work with this law is to decide what qualities are most important to you and then you need to start giving them out in abundance, because you simply cannot receive what you don’t give. If you don’t believe me, try this for one week and see the results for yourself. Try it with anything and you\\\\\\\'ll be amazed at its power.
For me Honesty and Trust are a great foundation for choosing friends. Be rich in these qualities and you will receive them back in abundance. Be caring and understanding. Don’t make arrangements or promises you won’t keep - be a trustworthy friend.
Ask yourself…what qualities are important to you?
Secondly, choose your friends very wisely. Be clever and focus your time and energy on friends who make you feel happy; choose to be around friends who make you smile and bring sunshine into your life. Choose friends who are worthy of your precious time and attention. This will make all the difference to your life as it’s very difficult to sustain every friendship you have ever made. No one has the time for that!! If you don’t intentionally choose which friendships you give your attention to you’ll have less time and love to give to those who are truly worthy of it.
Thirdly, make time for your friends. We may think of friends and want to call them, then something might crop up and we never do make that call. Time passes and that call is never made. This is the main reason friendships fizzle out. It begins to feel easier to walk away than make the effort of fixing the friendship from neglect.
Be honest with yourself, whatever you might tell yourself you really CAN make time. Only you decide where you put your attention each day, week, month and eventually the whole of your life. You need to be aware of where you are focusing your energy. Be conscious of how you use your time and choose to prioritize the people in your life.
The truth is all friendships do require working at. Make the time to send your friends an email or give them a quick phone call, write them a letter, send them a card or invite them round for coffee- show them that you care about them. Otherwise how will they know?
Then, enjoy your friends and have fun. Any long term friendship can go stale. So if you take the time to freshen up your friendship. Have some fun. You might not be 16 anymore, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get a little silly. If life isn’t enjoyable, then what’s the point? Concentrate on having fun and laughing with your friends and your friendships will stay a positive part of your life. You\\\\\\\'ll be a joy to be around and attract some happy people into your life!
Lastly, accept your friends the way they are.. some friends are great on the phone others are not. Some friends like to be out partying until dawn; some friends might prefer a night in sharing a nice meal or maybe even out to see a film. Some friends know the right thing to say, others don’t. It is a crucial part of managing your friendships; you must accept people the way they are. Fighting your friends’ natural personality is never going to work. We cannot control other people, and frankly, we shouldn’t want to.
Give your friends the room to be who they are and don't try to change them.