Dealing With Motherhood and Career
Created By Sophie Brading On 3 June, 2009
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Added By Sophie Brading On June 3, 2009, 2:30 am
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Tip 1 - Adjust your Lifestyle
We all have habits – good and bad, and often any frustration within our lives is of our own creation; it's so easy to fall into habits that drain us, rather than support us.
Try this exercise - write down all the bad habits you have in your life – at work and at home. Be honest with yourself and list the habits that bring you the most anguish and unhappiness. Now decide on one just of these to transform into a helpful habit that supports you.
You can decide the easiest one if you like, but the one you do choose, take a small step towards that change now. It takes about 30 times to make a behaviour into a habit. So do yourself a 'habit chart', and tick each time that you 'do' that habit, knowing that once you've got 30 ticks, you've success kicked the bad habit.
Tip 2 – How to Discover Your Own Way of Managing Your Time
There are countless time management tools and techniques, and the point here is that there is no magical method. This is because everyone is different; each person has varied circumstances and varying things to manage. My advice is to do some research and ask around – your mum, your friends, the web again is a good tool.
What has worked well for you in the past?
A favourite for me is to work with an action list for the week and keeping a diary of when the actions are to be carried out. That way I can assign slots of time and I can see if I'm being realistic in the amount of things I plan to do in the time available.
Tip 3 - Be Present - Tips for Working Mothers
Start focusing on what you are doing right now, rather than diluting your thoughts into past or future.
Don't worry about the past, and try not to think about the future. Be present in the moment of "now."
Start taking notice of your present moment, because that’s all you ever have. It’s vitally important when you have children. Savour and appreciate each moment of them growing up. Shift your focus into the here and now - this is where happiness is found.
What needs to change so you can take pleasure in life right now?
Tip 4 - Be Healthy and Active
Raising children is for life, and your children need you to be full of energy to keep up with them. That means that you need to be fit and healthy.
As you will know, this means eating well and plenty of physical activity. At the very least a thirty minutes walk, eating your five a day and five minutes meditation will benefit your mind, body and spirit, and make you a nicer person to be around!
Reflect on this question: If your life depended on you eating five portions of fruit or veg and exercising for half an hour four times a week, what would you do to achieve this?
As a working mum it can be difficult to get to the gym but there are an overabundance of exercise videos out there to suit all tastes and abilities.
Pile up on loads so you’ll never get bored. The kids love to join in – my daughter makes me laugh so much at our efforts to copy the exercises. Or you can sit them down with their toys whilst you do it or even before or after they’ve gone to bed.
Tip 5. Slow right down
We as Mum’s do tend to pride ourselves on our ability to multitask and carry everything out at breakneck speed. Our world is fast paced and these days multitasking, especially for working mums, is considered to be normal and completely essential. When having work, family and social responsibilities our survival does seem to depend on it sometimes! Putting this aside for a moment, I’m asking you to reconsider this belief. You might get things done quickly by approaching a number of tasks at once, but you are really not actually experiencing anything.
If you are talking to your friend on the phone and cooking a meal, tidying up, checking your email or something else at the same time, you\'re not experiencing the good things of these activities. Learn how to appreciate the present and stop living in the past, thinking or worrying about the future and start enjoying the now.
Enjoy what you are doing and become skilled at relishing each and every experience you have. Give yourself permission to slow down and do one thing at a time - only multitask if you must.
Through the process of never-ending multitasking, we find our minds become detached and we unable to focus on anything for any length of time.
Description:
Tip 1 - Adjust your Lifestyle
We all have habits – good and bad, and often any frustration within our lives is of our own creation; it's so easy to fall into habits that drain us, rather than support us.
Try this exercise - write down all the bad habits you have in your life – at work and at home. Be honest with yourself and list the habits that bring you the most anguish and unhappiness. Now decide on one just of these to transform into a helpful habit that supports you.
You can decide the easiest one if you like, but the one you do choose, take a small step towards that change now. It takes about 30 times to make a behaviour into a habit. So do yourself a 'habit chart', and tick each time that you 'do' that habit, knowing that once you've got 30 ticks, you've success kicked the bad habit.
Tip 2 – How to Discover Your Own Way of Managing Your Time
There are countless time management tools and techniques, and the point here is that there is no magical method. This is because everyone is different; each person has varied circumstances and varying things to manage. My advice is to do some research and ask around – your mum, your friends, the web again is a good tool.
What has worked well for you in the past?
A favourite for me is to work with an action list for the week and keeping a diary of when the actions are to be carried out. That way I can assign slots of time and I can see if I'm being realistic in the amount of things I plan to do in the time available.
Tip 3 - Be Present - Tips for Working Mothers
Start focusing on what you are doing right now, rather than diluting your thoughts into past or future.
Don't worry about the past, and try not to think about the future. Be present in the moment of "now."
Start taking notice of your present moment, because that’s all you ever have. It’s vitally important when you have children. Savour and appreciate each moment of them growing up. Shift your focus into the here and now - this is where happiness is found.
What needs to change so you can take pleasure in life right now?
Tip 4 - Be Healthy and Active
Raising children is for life, and your children need you to be full of energy to keep up with them. That means that you need to be fit and healthy.
As you will know, this means eating well and plenty of physical activity. At the very least a thirty minutes walk, eating your five a day and five minutes meditation will benefit your mind, body and spirit, and make you a nicer person to be around!
Reflect on this question: If your life depended on you eating five portions of fruit or veg and exercising for half an hour four times a week, what would you do to achieve this?
As a working mum it can be difficult to get to the gym but there are an overabundance of exercise videos out there to suit all tastes and abilities.
Pile up on loads so you’ll never get bored. The kids love to join in – my daughter makes me laugh so much at our efforts to copy the exercises. Or you can sit them down with their toys whilst you do it or even before or after they’ve gone to bed.
Tip 5. Slow right down
We as Mum’s do tend to pride ourselves on our ability to multitask and carry everything out at breakneck speed. Our world is fast paced and these days multitasking, especially for working mums, is considered to be normal and completely essential. When having work, family and social responsibilities our survival does seem to depend on it sometimes! Putting this aside for a moment, I’m asking you to reconsider this belief. You might get things done quickly by approaching a number of tasks at once, but you are really not actually experiencing anything.
If you are talking to your friend on the phone and cooking a meal, tidying up, checking your email or something else at the same time, you\'re not experiencing the good things of these activities. Learn how to appreciate the present and stop living in the past, thinking or worrying about the future and start enjoying the now.
Enjoy what you are doing and become skilled at relishing each and every experience you have. Give yourself permission to slow down and do one thing at a time - only multitask if you must.
Through the process of never-ending multitasking, we find our minds become detached and we unable to focus on anything for any length of time.