Dealing With Regrets
Created By Kinjal Darukhanawala On 28 May, 2009
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Added By Kinjal Darukhanawala On May 28, 2009, 2:11 am
Country: India
My Experience: Sarah Maria, Body Image Expert
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Author: Sarah Maria
Sarah Maria is a body-image expert who helps people learn how to love their bodies and love their lives. Her book, Love Your Body, Love Your Life, will be available in November '09. She combines ancient spiritual wisdom with modern transformational techniques to help people create a body and a life that they love. Her work has been endorsed by well-known authors and spiritual teachers, including Deepak Chopra and Marci Shimoff (featured teacher in The Secret), among others, as well as by numerous physicians and psychologists. Learn more about her and her work at www.breakfreebauty.com.
I was reflecting back over some challenges in my life, and developed the following insight. As usual, I would love to hear your comments and thoughts!
There is a part of us that seeks comfort and pleasure. There is certainly a part of us that wants everything to go smoothly, according to our intentions, wishes, and desires. We would rather feel pleasure than pain. We want to have things work out the way we want them to work out. We want everything to go our way. Let’s take for example, a situation such as a divorce, or the death of a loved on, or the loss of a job, or any such event.
There is a part of us, or a part of me anyway, that says “Why is this happening! What have I done wrong? What can I do to make the situation better? What can I do to take away the pain? What can I do to increase the pleasure? Why me? Why now? Etc, etc.
Do you know the voice that I am talking about by chance?
Yet then, in thinking about it, there is another part of us that is not so concerned with whether things are going our way or not. This is the part of us that expands, grows, and develops regardless of what happens in our lives. In fact, the greatest challenges in our lives often seem to make us expand and grow the most.
It seems that there is a part of us whose sole goal in life is to help us grow and expand. Life may present challenges, there may be difficulties, yet this part of ourselves helps us expand to accomodate, grow, and learn from every life experience.
When you are going through challenges, it can help to connect with this part of yourself. When you find yourself faced with a difficult situation, notice the part of you that just wants to situation to go away, be solved, etc. Then notice the part of you that is growing and developing because of this challenge.
Here are some questions to ask:
How have you changed, grown, and progressed because of this difficulty?
Who have you become as a result of this challenge?
Would you go back to who you were before the challenge if you could? Or do you appreciate how you have grown from the difficulty?
I find that looking at how I have grown and developed gives me the tools to more easily view every difficulty as an opportunity just waiting to happen…
Description:
Author: Sarah Maria
Sarah Maria is a body-image expert who helps people learn how to love their bodies and love their lives. Her book, Love Your Body, Love Your Life, will be available in November '09. She combines ancient spiritual wisdom with modern transformational techniques to help people create a body and a life that they love. Her work has been endorsed by well-known authors and spiritual teachers, including Deepak Chopra and Marci Shimoff (featured teacher in The Secret), among others, as well as by numerous physicians and psychologists. Learn more about her and her work at www.breakfreebauty.com.
I was reflecting back over some challenges in my life, and developed the following insight. As usual, I would love to hear your comments and thoughts!
There is a part of us that seeks comfort and pleasure. There is certainly a part of us that wants everything to go smoothly, according to our intentions, wishes, and desires. We would rather feel pleasure than pain. We want to have things work out the way we want them to work out. We want everything to go our way. Let’s take for example, a situation such as a divorce, or the death of a loved on, or the loss of a job, or any such event.
There is a part of us, or a part of me anyway, that says “Why is this happening! What have I done wrong? What can I do to make the situation better? What can I do to take away the pain? What can I do to increase the pleasure? Why me? Why now? Etc, etc.
Do you know the voice that I am talking about by chance?
Yet then, in thinking about it, there is another part of us that is not so concerned with whether things are going our way or not. This is the part of us that expands, grows, and develops regardless of what happens in our lives. In fact, the greatest challenges in our lives often seem to make us expand and grow the most.
It seems that there is a part of us whose sole goal in life is to help us grow and expand. Life may present challenges, there may be difficulties, yet this part of ourselves helps us expand to accomodate, grow, and learn from every life experience.
When you are going through challenges, it can help to connect with this part of yourself. When you find yourself faced with a difficult situation, notice the part of you that just wants to situation to go away, be solved, etc. Then notice the part of you that is growing and developing because of this challenge.
Here are some questions to ask:
How have you changed, grown, and progressed because of this difficulty?
Who have you become as a result of this challenge?
Would you go back to who you were before the challenge if you could? Or do you appreciate how you have grown from the difficulty?
I find that looking at how I have grown and developed gives me the tools to more easily view every difficulty as an opportunity just waiting to happen…